ADVENTURES OF A
So I promised a lot of people that I would tell them how men treated me differently once I started passing as a man. Which is basically that they respect me as a human, and they are very nice. As a female passing/visibly gender non conforming person, when a dude approached me in public, 99.9% of the time it was to ask me for money, hit on me, or go into some homophobic "you need Jesus" type thing. And if I tried to say no, they would often get very aggressive. There was also the occasional yelling of dyke/tranny/lesbian (that one confused me because "lesbian" isn't a slur?). Now, men mostly talk to me to ask for help connecting to the wifi, to tell me they like my shirt, to start a conversation about how the movie version of The Black Panther didn't live up to their childhood dreams based on the comics, etc. And if they are hitting on me or asking for money and I say no, the response is usually something like "ok, have a nice night man". What surprises me most is that I'm not particularly gender conforming man, but men still seem to respect me even if I'm in a crop top and heels. Maybe that's just acceptable gay mens attire in Miami?